new flirt trying to convince mom - Forum

Monica Robles — Nov 10, 2009
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I really want to be able to throw myself into this, but i still live at home and its really hard with my mom trying to make me eat meat. I want to try and convince her to try this out with me, but she has diverticulitis and can't process grains, seeds, or nuts. Anybody have any ideas on how we can come to a compromise where i'm not banging my head in frustration?

Gaylene Ray — Nov 12, 2009
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Hi Monica, First of all good for you in taking a big leap. It's never easy letting loved ones know you have decided to become vegan. My friends mum laughted at her when she told her. Let me tell you it was hard for her, coming from an Australian family who has a staple diet of meat and two veg, I admired her because she started with reading some yummy recipes with her mum, then cooking with her. Mainly to add more vegetables to her diet. If I remember correctly her mum liked the new vegetables and became a little more "understanding". As it turned out, her mum started adding vegetable, although she had to make her own tofu dishes. Not sure if this helps. Baby steps always work when planning big changes.

Alicia Silverstone — Nov 13, 2009
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maybe ask your mom to read this book? for christmas present to you? and ya start cooking...make yummie things that dont have the things she thinks she cant have right now...make things she can have...and just enjoy yummie food together. then maybe one day she will see how healthy and happy it has made you...and amybe she will go see a macro councilor or the kushi institue where they will help her rid the illness she has. or ask pcrm ?'s please

Mary Ann G. — Nov 19, 2009
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I find it interesting that when I tell people about the choice I've made to follow a vegetarian lifestyle they get all weird and start to defend their own lifestyle. I don't know if the human defense mechanism or something but why can't people just say "I'm glad that you've made a choice to do what's best for you...let me know what I can do to support you".

I would have a discussion with you mom and tell why you've made this choice and ask her to support you. Tell her that the door is open for her to try this choice to if she wants but the decision is ultimately hers to make.

and yes, definately start cooking up some yummy good and maybe that will bring her around too

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Kimberly Soles — Nov 19, 2009
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I am actually a mom who is trying to get the rest of my family to try this diet. I have an unusual living arrangement. My mom, myself, my daughter, her husband and their 11/2 year old all live together. I am ready to go Superhero, my daughter is a personal trainer and understands the importance of good nutrition. She is very willling. My mom is old fashioned and set in her ways. My son in law is a cowboy. He is a meat and potatoes kind of guy. I am doing the best I can with what I have to work with.
My biggest problem is how do I find the items I need in a small town with now farmers markets around. My advice for getting your mom to swith. Give her the book and start making some yummy meals.

Monica Robles — Dec 11, 2009
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just an update:
I've been doing a pretty good job of staying vegan, minus a slip up here and there (its kinda hard when your mom still makes all the mexican food i used to eat and love as a kid)my mom has gotten a lot better about me going vegan and despite the fact that she thinks its all a phase and ill get over it, im pretty sure she'll turn around in time.thanks soo much guys for the encouraging words and support. I was starting to feel a little defeated, but i love going on here and reminding myself why i did this in the first place.

Monica Robles — Dec 11, 2009
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just an update:
I've been doing a pretty good job of staying vegan, minus a slip up here and there (its kinda hard when your mom still makes all the mexican food i used to eat and love as a kid)my mom has gotten a lot better about me going vegan and despite the fact that she thinks its all a phase and ill get over it, im pretty sure she'll turn around in time.thanks soo much guys for the encouraging words and support. I was starting to feel a little defeated, but i love going on here and reminding myself why i did this in the first place.

dancer — Dec 29, 2009
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What is a flirt? Is it an acronym? I don't do these kinds of things on the computer and don't know the lingo and how to do many of the technical things.

I've tried being vegan on my own but fall off the wagon all the time because I don't plan ahead and I just put off the total commitment. And I haven't been able to find good recipes that are all healthy and very low salt, or no sugar or simple carbs and no trans fats. It's very hard to eat out. Much of the food is not filling and I'm hungry in 20 minutes or so.

Another problem I have is my nails break when I stick to it pretty well for about a week, and they keep breaking. Am I missing some nutrients?

If I can figure this site out and how to use it, I'll try to check back a few times a week because the suggestions I've read so far are good. Thanks everyone!