I agree that processed foods - soy or not - should not be used or only as "treats". The soy debate is confusing. There is also a chemical that is often used in the processing of soy which is not good - can't think of the name! But I believe organic products are safer for that (and other!) reasons. I like what Terry Waters says in her great cookbook "clean food" - one of the few vegan cookbooks that does not rely heavily on soy products:
"The protein makeup of soy is particularly hard to digest and assimilate. It is high in phytic acid, which prevents our bodies from absorbing essential minerals such as calcium and iron. Soybeans also contain goitrogens, which interfere with thyroid function by suppressing the body's use of iodine. It is, however, widely believed that slow cooking and fermenting soy neutralizes its high acid levels, allowing us to access its health benefits with less concern over its health risks. Therefor, when it comes to managing soy intake, you can eliminate many of these concerns by sticking with organic, fermented or slowly cooked soy products prepared with kombu and consumed in medicinal quantities based on your unique constitution.